Sunday, 16 September 2012

Is Divorce A Social Status?


Dear Readers,
The rate at which marriages/relationships collapse now is assuming a social symbol status in our society.

In few years time, people will be throwing divorce parties and invite friends and well-wishers to celebrate their divorce anniversaries; they will choose aso-ebi, hire a hall and popular musicians. Even a question like "So when are u getting divorced?" will become commonplace.

If u know u can't handle the weight and pressures of marriage, please remain single.

If u don't know what marriage is all about, please remain single until u do.

If u are getting married because of the things u desire or hope to gain from the other person, or to satisfy ur fantasies, please remain single.

If u know u can't be faithful, remain single.

Don't get married out of desperation, because u think u are getting too old.

Don't just get married because of the pressures from ur families. They are not the one getting married-you are!

You desire a successful home, but if ur choice of friends are those whose marriages have collapsed. It is simple - they'll make u drink from their poisoned chalice. Once that happens, ur marriage is in a process of dying a slow death. Be very mindful of where you go for advices.

Guys, if u know u can't stay responsible please remain single until you mature. There's no way u can abandon the care of ur family at the expense of your lifestyle. They are your priority and everything else including u comes last. You are the teacher, the guide, the bodyguard, the spiritual leader, the role model - u are not a deity. So don't expect to be worshipped. You need respect, earn it by being responsible.

Ladies, if u know you can't be submissive please don't go into marriage so you're not turned to a punching bag!

If u know u can't stand being corrected, please marry urself. Don't throw ur spinsterhood garment away if you see respect as a big deal.

Please check ur domestic scorecard - if ur score is zero, please stay in ur parents' house
Share your thoughts on this issue guys

1 comment:

BRIGHTINO said...

The article said it all. I agree with the author 110%..... "if you don't know what marriage is all about, pls remain single". There is more to marriage than just walking down the aisle, having a change of name and having babies. Marriage is a life time commitment to one person and one person ONLY. It's about tolerance, commitment, patience, forgiveness, caring, responsibility, honesty, unconditional love, faithfulness and mutual respect.